I'm working on it.
Following your heart might not always be the right thing to do. Especially if the decision to do so is made in a haste. There are a lot of factors evolving around what a person says/does.
In our 2nd year of tertiary studies in the Yong Siew Toh Conservatory of Music, we're all required to take "Critical Thinking for Musicians", a module that's supposed to hone our skills in managing our lives better - both personal and professional. Last 2 weeks, we talked about how we would want to take complete control of our lives, and be our own dictators instead of having others shove us around.
Well, I don't think it's possible for ANYONE to take complete control of your life. If you think you're the supreme ruler of your own life, you're living in denial.
Our actions, conduct and speech is dictated by our society and culture; our eventual careers are prompted by our parents/relatives/senior advisors etc; opportunities to make a name for ourselves are in the hands of others; the food we eat is influenced by what others tell us tastes good/is healthy...
Living a good life doesn't mean you have to be in complete control over it by the time you're 30. Whether you like it or not, some decisions are not yours to make; and there's no point sulking over the outcome. Opportunities come and go, and you should kick yourself if YOU let it slip through your grasp. But should it slip past because of what another person said/did, you should either: a) let it go because there's nothing you can do about it; or b) put in double/triple the effort to grab the opportunity the next time it comes by.
Same thing applies to our speech. If we all paraded our thoughts openly, half the world would be in jail. Human beings are all selfish creatures, and some of us live in that little bubble where we think we're always right and everyone else is wrong. Well, when one wishes to pass on a comment/advice, one should always take into consideration all aspects of the other person's feelings and (possible) mindset in case one's statement/advice is misinterpreted; and if a third party is involved, one should always consult the third party before approaching the "other" person.
I hope I'm making sense. Lol.
As for our careers, I don't think see what's the hoo-ha with regards to our parents/relatives/senior advisors influencing our decisions. As long as we take the responsibilities that come with our decision and not blame it on them when you find that the career path you chose doesn't suit you, what's the problem? In any case, (most) parents/relatives/senior advisors just want the best for you, no?
I need sleep...